Know the warning Signs of Domestic Violence

"Domestic violence is sadly common in Marion County. From 2003 to 2006, there were 14 domestic violence deaths.

It didn't happen here, but the Monday night shooting death in Oviedo of 19-year-old Tiffany Barwick of Ocala is a grim reminder that such violence knows no boundaries, geographic or otherwise.

"It's a community problem," said Monica Bryant, family violence prevention coordinator with the Marion County Children's Alliance. "It may not be in your home today, but it might be tomorrow. It may be your sister. It could be your mother. It could be your father, because men are abused, too, but the majority are women."

Those who work with victims say there are warning signs that indicate one's partner may be a batterer and there are steps victims can take to protect themselves. There also is help available to get out of a violent situation.

There are a number of signs to look for that indicate someone has a battering personality.

# Jealousy and controlling behavior are among those signs. Often, a batterer forms a quick attachment or blames others for problems. He or she may be verbally abusive.

# An abuser may have unrealistic expectations, or try to isolate his or her partner from others. They blame their feelings on others. They may be hypersensitive, becoming easily insulted, or be cruel to children or animals.

# Other signs may include the "playful" use of force in sex, rigid sex roles, and "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" changing moods.

# One should be concerned if one's partner makes threats of violence, if any force is used during an argument, if the person breaks or strikes objects and if there are instances of battering in past relationships."
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